Ego-presence dial
Some advice is about on/off: Stop that. Do this. Let go of that. Gain this.
Powerful advice instead gives me a dial to play with: More of this means less of that. As you are gaining this, you will also gain that. Be aware when this gets activated, calm it down with this.
With a dial, I can make big adjustments quickly. Then fine-tune to a just-so level.
One of my most treasured advice-dials is this:
Ego, is a reduction of your ability to be in this moment.
Ego will never go away completely. Ego can also be inflated to protect myself from the moment, as a coping mechanism.
But learning how to have just enough ego to be fully present at this moment - that is a fine-tune I enjoy playing with.