Small joys
Since life has become busier and full we resorted to scheduling connections with other people.
That scheduling has a high coordination cost, so we see the interaction as valuable and precious. This sets a baseline of what we will share and catch up on.
This is the thing: Life is a series of small joys. That is what we want to do when we get together. But we cannot, because of this precious time.
Schedule 20-minute catch-ups, frequently. Even better when done without scheduling.
This creates the conditions for small joys to come up